Wellness Journey - Step 1: Reflection + Intention Setting
Updated: Jan 13
If I'm honest, I'm a little hesitant to begin this post. I've deleted this second sentence now three times. It's not that 2020 was so destructive that I can't find the words, it's more that now that it is "over" I don't want to keep bringing it up. It's like the fight with your friend or partner that's over that you never want to speak about, but know that you learned so much that you want to talk about the lessons, but you fear bringing it up again because you finally put it to bed? That vibe.
See for me, 2020 really showed me the power of investing in yourself, your mindset and your well being. About three years ago (the timeline is so foggy, I was in such a rough spot, I never really paid attention to dates), I decided it was time to hit pause on the auto pilot, check boxing lifestyle I was living and consciously decide to create the life I wanted and on my terms. But what came with that was a lot of self reflection, healing and growth. I took the time to develop a wellness toolkit, and put those practices into play as often as possible. It was difficult at first because I had no introduction to these practices growing up. Although I was raised in the church, and attended Catholic school, I didn't feel like I was equipped to deal with the emotional rollercoaster of adulthood. Life was relatively easy growing up and I settled into a flow of just letting life happen. It felt beautiful, until I felt like I had hit a wall. My career was growing but was it? I now had three children, two homes, a husband (who is truly lovely and damn near close to perfection by the way). I had everything. But I also felt like I just let all of this..."happen".
So I wanted to take my control back. I wanted to DESIGN my life. Be an active participant in what life had to offer and how I crafted what I wanted for me. Taking my control back for me meant being grounded in myself, my purpose and my passions. I mean, I didn't even really know what I liked or disliked. Do you know how rewarding it is to have a favorite ANYTHING? As a stereotypical indecisive Libra, having a single favorite anything is probably one of my greatest accomplishments.
What does any of this have to do with 2020? By proactively seeking practices that grounded me, challenged me, challenged my perspectives, understanding what was in my control and what wasn't I was unknowingly prepared for the challenges that 2020 presented to us.
And I say us, because it truly felt like the entire world was in this together.
I was already aiming to journal, meditate and move daily. I had been playing with different morning routines over the years and settled on what I call the 3 M's: movement, mindfulness and meditation. I aim to do all three everyday. Key word - "aim" because it doesn't always happen. Which too was important in navigating 2020. I gave myself the grace and space to fall off and get back into my routines and rituals without feeling any sort of disappointment of remorse. I unapologetically put myself first, learned to trust my gut and intuition when it came to my feelings, my body, my mindset and it paid dividends during the whirlwind of 2020.
My goal this year is to share my journey, practices more this year so that we can together develop daily practices that will help us to build resilience in life period. I want to be clear, I still felt the emotions that came along with all that unfolded over the year, but I was able to feel the feels, process them in a healthy way and keep myself moving. In previous years I would have absolutely found myself spiraling. Completely stressed and overwhelmed full of anxiety feeling like the world is falling apart around me and feeling helpless about how I responded physically and mentally.
I'm proud (and a little afraid) to say I felt strong this year through all of it. Proud that all the years of investing in myself, my self care and mindset paid off when I needed it most. That for me was one of the major successes of 2020.
If you are ready to close out 2020, and step into 2021, I have created two reflective worksheets:
These are two practices that I have developed to take a slightly different approach to planning and closing out the previous year. Understandably a lot of us are cautious about being too optimistic about 2021, these worksheets give us a chance to make our goals more personal driven by our mindset, wellness and wellbeing. Essentially, they focus on things we CAN control so that we are grounded and equipped to deal with what we cannot.
Here's to pouring into ourselves, and putting our wellness + wellbeing as top priority in 2021!